My Journey for Justice in Texas

Greetings to everyone, I hope this finds everyone well. It has been a while since i last posted on my blogs.

And wow it has also been a journey. I encountered an uphill battle in my fight for justice in Houston Tx

Harris County.

On or about March 2022 i was well established into my apt community having fled Dallas Tx to Houston a

Harris Co suburb i thought my abuse was somewhat over , after all i had escaped from the repeated rapes and physical verbal abuse or so i thought.

My ex husband came searching for me not far from the time i nestled into a Harris Co Suburb in a Harris Co Area Apt Complex.

In March of 2022 i was repeatedly assaulted, i called 911 i was frantic and thought this nightmare will

never end. I finally mustered enough courage to call Police. Little did i know that my plea for a request

to prosecute the assault/s not only was not and has not been prosecuted by Harris County i have yet to

obtain justice for the rapes and physical assaults.

In July of 2022 i was finally afforded an interview with a caseworker from Harris County Domestic

Violence unit.

After all my affidavit was reviewed i still was met with a questioning of my assaults, and after presenting

Photos and my affidavit to the Harris County DA office i knew i was in for an uphill battle one in which I do

have a Domestic Violence Protection order however it is only valid for enforcement in Harris Co .

I would like to say for the record i hired my own counsel, a female attorney whom i am so grateful for she

was able to represent my case before a family court Judge who granted me a domestic violence protective order.

Special thanks to a Woman who empowered me, my Attorney , her powerful story makes her a strong Advocate and a lifesaver in my eyes because she fought for me when Harris County DA did little to help me, to this day I continue to seek justice for the rapes and other crimes committed against me 

Texas has yet to step up to bring him my perpetrators to justice from my former partners including

My kidnapping as a young 13 yr old and then at age 16 the forced abduction and kidnapping me into Mexico living under horrific conditions and a forced marriage in Mexico 

There is much gender

Bias we women must continue to lean in and press in and speak up as advocates for justice and victims 

Of domestic violence. 

Please stay tuned i continue to await Texas to prosecute my ex partners for the crimes they committed

against my person.

Many thanks to the communities and Women who have made a strong powerful impact in my life. Now

more empowered I move forward in my quest for justice.

All my best,

Nikki

Texas Resources on domestic Violence IPV- Intimate Partner Violence 

https://www.texasadvocacyproject.org/statistics

80% of women with Protective orders,  less likely to be victimized

https://www2.texasattorneygeneral.gov/initiatives/family-violence/

Houston Texas, Harris County Understanding Domestic Violence in Texas

https://www.understandinghouston.org/blog/domestic-violence-in-texas-and-across-the-houston-region
https://www.txcourts.gov/dvrp/domestic-violence-in-texas/

Texas Data and Statistics 

More recent data compiled from Texas Dept of Public Safety , some data appears to be reflected from yr 2018, some data assembled in yr 2019. Per Report it is the most current Data 

For Domestic Violence coming from Texas as of June 2021. Again please refer to the link

Resource for statistics. Please note as per report new statistics are released from the State of

Texas my home state .

https://www.hopetotes.org/texas-domestic-and-family-violence-statistics

Resources 

https://www.butwhydidyoustay.com/
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The Physical and Psychological Effects of Spousal Rape

Perhaps the relaxed social perceptions and laws surrounding spousal rape are fueled by the belief that it is uncommon. Unfortunately, the data says otherwise. Research shows that approximately 10-14 percent of married women in the United States have been raped by their husbands. The consequences of such rapes are no less dire just because the perpetrator is a spouse. Indeed, women who are raped by their husbands suffer severe and long-lasting physical and mental health problems.

The Bizarre Legal Loopholes Surrounding Spousal Rape

Many states still have archaic laws that allow for spousal rape.

The physical effects of spousal rape often include injuries to vaginal and anal areas. Vaginal and anal tearing, pelvic pain, urinary tract infections, miscarriages, bladder infections, infertility, and the contraction of sexually transmitted diseases are often reported among spousal rape survivors (Campbell & Soeken, 1999).

Other bodily injuries are also common. For example, Campbell and Alford (1989) reported that 50 percent of the spousal rape survivors in their study were kicked, hit, burned, or stabbed while being raped. Many survivors go on to report lacerations, soreness, bruising, torn muscles, and broken bones (Adams, 1993).

Also important is the relationship between spousal rape and unwanted pregnancies. Approximately 17 percent of spousal rape survivors in one study reported experiencing an unwanted pregnancy; and 20 percent of those women went on to experience miscarriages or stillbirths (Campbell & Alford, 1989).

The psychological effects of spousal rape are also severe. Indeed, given that spousal rape survivors are likely to experience multiple assaults, and because they are raped by someone whom they once presumably loved and trusted, it should come as no surprise that these survivors suffer extreme and long-term psychological consequences (e.g., Kilpatrick et al., 1988). Common effects of spousal rape include anxiety, shock, depressionsuicidal ideation, disordered sleeping, and PTSD (Stermac et al., 2001). Women raped by their intimate partners are actually more likely to be diagnosed with depression and anxiety than those who are raped by non-partners (Plichta & Falik, 2001). Research has also shown that spousal rape survivors experience more long-lasting psychological effects, with some survivors reporting flashbacks, sexual dysfunction, and emotional pain for several years after the violence (Bennice & Resick, 2003).

Tying it All Together

As COVID-19 confines victimized spouses to the home, it is likely that instances of spousal rape will experience a rise commensurate with increases in overall domestic violence. This should give us pause and provoke a critical examination of the existing legal loopholes surrounding spousal rape. In a perfect world, marriage would embody only the harmony and bliss that we all grew up envisioning for ourselves. But the harsh reality is that some marriages are riddled with emotional abuse and physical violence. In fact, many experts now refer to violent and controlling behaviors in marital relationships as “intimate terrorism.” Perhaps this terminology offers a more apt descriptor for the terror that some spouses experience on an everyday basis. If we widely recognize and condemn the terror of domestic violence, shouldn’t we also denounce the terror implicit in non-consensual sex?

Reference link :

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/making-sense-chaos/202005/the-bizarre-legal-loopholes-surrounding-spousal-rape

Join Nikki in her vision of justice for Women, we deserve to live a life free of oppression

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