Leaving an Abusive Partner

People routinely ask, “Why doesn’t she leave? Why does she stay?”.  Pre-COVID-19 and now in the context of coronavirus, the answer is not that simple. There are many barriers to safety in an abusive relationship. Leaving is often dangerous and there are many factors an abused partner must consider in the analysis of how to respond to an abusive partner. With the recent loosening of restrictions placed under coronavirus, we need to remain vigilant and ask a more effective question:

“Why does the abusive partner inflict violence and how can I help the survivor gain access to safety?” (link how to help a friend)

The statistics outline the reality that the most dangerous time for a survivor/victim is when she leaves the abusive partner; 77 percent of domestic violence-related homicides occur upon separation and there is a 75 percent increase of violence upon separation for at least two years. These valid concerns must be addressed with safety planning.

Please support me by following my page and or social media platforms, leaving an abusive relationship is a time

when a victim needs guidance.

We must continue to advocate for an act to protect all victims of domestic abuse this includes a need to recognize

coercive control, as of today in the USA only 2 states have made progress that is California, Hawaii,

Sincerely,

Nikki

References

https://www.clarionledger.com/story/news/2017/01/28/most-dangerous-time-for-battered-women-is-when-they-leave-jerry-mitchell/96955552/

https://www.coercive-control.com/post-separation.html

https://ncadv.org/why-do-victims-stay
https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/pdf/10.1177/2158244013501154

https://www.betterhelp.com/advice/abuse/am-i-the-victim-of-covert-abuse-learning-the-signs/

https://www.healthline.com/health/mental-health/recognize-emotionally-abusive-relationships#What-is-emotional-abuse?

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